Friday, April 6, 2012

Burqa please

Roma and I were told that we needed put on the abaya (black robe) and head scarf before getting on the plane to Saudi Arabia.  We were also informed that we needed to wear this the entire time in Saudi Arabia.  That small piece of information managed to completely freak me out about my short trip to Saudi.  But I was so thankful that Roma was going with me.  Even though we were traveling with Jonathan, it’s always easier to have another woman with you in that kind of environment.  

Roma and I put on our abayas and we were completely hysterical.  I felt absolutely ridiculous.  And the ironic thing is that the abaya and headscarf are meant to make women, more or less, non-existent.  And yet I felt like I stuck out like a sore thumb.  To put it bluntly, I was embarrassed.  Furthermore, Roma and I are both fairly loud women.  We talk loudly, we laugh loudly.  We were totally not meant to wear the abaya.  So even while we were on the plane, everyone was looking at us because we were audible. 

One interesting thing that I noticed and wasn’t expecting is that despite the abaya, headscarf, and burqa, women like to be individuals.  Some of the coverings were completely blinged out with jewels or embroidery.  Furthermore, the women wore such heavy eye makeup… even in the case when the only thing you could see was their eyes.  I was surprised because I didn’t know what to expect and was even concerned about wearing makeup and bringing too much attention to myself.  But makeup apparently isn’t an issue. 

Upon arriving in Riyadh, we had VIP service in immigration.  They took our picture and our fingerprints.  I was starting to get freaked out with all of this and then I remembered that the U.S. has the same process for all immigrants not from North America.  So that put me a little more at ease.  But it was difficult because none of the immigration officers spoke English and none of us spoke Arabic.  So it was a lot of hand gestures and movements in order to communicate.

We stayed in a gorgeous hotel in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia.  The finishing details were exquisite!  And the bathtub was to die for!!!  The evening we arrived in Riyadh, it was almost 1am by the time we checked into the hotel.  But I had to splurge and take a bath that evening… I’d never seen a bathtub that invited me into it more than that one.  So I bathed in rose petals and ate dates and pecans.  I felt like a queen… which completely set the stage for the rest of the trip and my soon-to-be nickname of maharani (Hindi for “queen”).

Riyadh was so interesting.  In my mind, Saudi Arabia is very backwards and old school, especially considering their views on women.  I expected to see sand and ancient buildings.  And I certainly didn’t expect the luxurious hotel room or that they would know how to pamper people.  But what I saw was one of the newest and most modern cities in the world.  Almost all buildings were under construction… either newly being built or renovated.  Saudi Arabia is one of the fastest growing countries in terms of mobile technology.  I expect that we will see huge growth in that region over the next two years.

And yet, despite all of this modernization, the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia (KSA for short) has a “progressive” king who allowed women to start working only a couple of years ago.  In all office buildings, it is required to have a separate area where only women can have desks.  Men are NOT allowed.  Moreover, women must go through separate security and immigration lines in the airport.  Everything is segregated.

The only evening that we were there, we went to dinner at a restaurant.  Roma and I traveled in a separate car from Jonathan because he was meeting with a family-owned traditional Saudi Arabian company and women weren’t allowed in the meetings.  So we worked out of the office in the afternoon while Jonathan went to the meeting.  Anyway, Roma and I traveled to the restaurant and arrived there before Jonathan.  We tried to walk into the front door and were vehemently told to go to a different entrance.  We realized quickly the door we tried to enter was for men only.  We were ushered to the “family” side of the restaurant.  Women were only allowed on that side.  There were even curtained off areas so that women who wore burqas and wanted to dine with their families could sit behind the curtains and take off their burqas and no one would see their face.

Furthermore, since Roma and I were there before Jonathan arrived, the staff wouldn’t serve us or take our order until he was there.  It was all very surreal because it’s just not what I’m used to.  As soon as we ate dinner, we were whisked off to the airport again in order to fly back to Dubai for another day of meetings.

While at the airport, we had a Saudi Arabian police officer threaten us for bringing our carry-on bags through security because they were too big.  Yet, we didn't have problems on any other flights.  Of course, I would have felt confident telling a security officer that in the U.S. but Saudi Arabia is an entirely different story.  In the end, because we had already passed security, he let us go.  Phew!!!  But he told us if we ever came back, our luggage was prohibited.  Hmmm... don't think that will be too much of a problem for me.

Then we were back on the plane to Dubai...

Doin' it Dubai style!

*Disclaimer: this is my American point of view on the Middle East and India.  Please do not think of me as ignorant or pompous… my eyes have since been opened.

Some people envy my job because it seems I get to travel a lot.  Just to put it into perspective, I work, on average, 14-16 hours per day.  That's a normal day.  I have very little time for a personal life during the week.  I live for the weekends and the time I spend with my boys in San Francisco.  While on business travel, my day increases to 19-20 hours per day on average.  On this trip, I even had one 24 hour day.  So while I get to travel to various countries and stay in beautiful hotels, it all comes at a price.  But I'm not asking you to feel sorry for me.  It's not that at all.  I chose this job, and I continue to choose this job.  If it were that bad, I wouldn't do it. But I just wanted to put it in perspective for you.
With that said, this was one of my favorite business trips by far.  I still had those long, long days, but boy, it was absolutely fantastic.  We traveled to three countries, four cities, in five days.  So as you can imagine, there was a lot of plane hopping going on.

I arrived in Dubai a day before my boss so that I could do a little bit of sightseeing before our business trip officially started.  I used my Marriott points to stay for free at a hotel on the Dubai Marina… and it was gorgeous.  However, the only room that was available was a two-bedroom, three bathroom suite.  And it was just me staying there!  I felt like I was rattling around in my hotel room.  There was so much room!  I encouraged my colleague, Roma, to stay with me but she has family in Dubai and wanted to stay with them instead.  I'm hoping she just doesn't think that I smell. ;-)

Driving through Dubai from the airport to my hotel, I noticed many familiar things: a restaurant called “Livin’ la vida loca,” Tim Hortons (my absolutely fave coffee and donut place in Canada), McDonalds (of course!).  In my opinion, Dubai is a perfect combination of the U.S. and Europe.  Moreover, there are so many expats from all over the world that live there.  Out of the hundreds of people that I met, only one person was born and raised in Dubai.  The rest came from across the globe, many from England, Australia, and New Zealand.  In some ways, I felt like I was on a cruise ship.  If you’ve ever been on a cruise, all of the staff come from all over the world and on their name tag, their home country is listed.  I felt like it should be the same way in Dubai since people are from all over.

While I was in Dubai, I had my sights set on several tourist attractions: Burj Al Arab, a seven-star hotel that is shaped like a boat sail; Burj Kalifar, the tallest building in the world; Dubai Mall, the largest mall in the world.  Unfortunately there was a sand storm so visibility was limited and I didn't get to all of the attractions – but two out of three isn’t all that bad.

The Burj Al Arab is such a prestigious hotel that people can’t even walk on the property without a reservation.  So Roma and I made a reservation for lunch.  And let me tell you, that lunch was NOT cheap!  But the ability to just walk into the hotel was totally worth the price.  Take a look at some of the pics and video of the hotel (to be posted soon).  For lunch, we dined on the 54th floor and you could only see the ocean.  It was just incredible!

We also went to the Dubai Mall, did a little shopping.  That place is massive!!  I tried to haggle with some jewelers for some gold.  But in the end, I just walked away because I couldn’t get the price that I wanted.  At the Dubai Mall, I got to see the water show, which was a lot of fun as well. 

After my one day of fun in Dubai, Roma and I met Jonathan at the Dubai airport and we were whisked away to Saudi Arabia…